Who is Chet DeRouen?

I’m a simple Cajun Coonass from the swamps of Southwest Louisiana in the small town of Baldwin inside St. Mary Parish on the banks of the Bayou Tech, the swamps, and the beautiful Gulf of Mexico. Geaux Saints!!! …and that is all I know about football right there.

After a one year stint at a now defunct Christian college in Baton Rouge, I attended college in the beautiful Ozark Mountains at a small private Bible College in Springfield, Missouri.

I came to live in a small suburb just east of Phoenix, Arizona where I traded 90 degree temperatures with 100% humidity, copper head snakes, roaches, red ants, lightening bugs and lots of sea food for 100 degree temperatures with very little humidity, rattle snakes, scorpions, fire ants, black widows and lots of Mexican food and a nice cool swimming pool.

I am not the shy quiet type at all. I am usually told that I talk too much and share too many details. Really? I love to tell stories and I have hundreds to tell. I have an analogy for EVERYTHING as well. Just ask my kids.

I’m very naive and barely street smart. I take people at their word and rarely question good solid fact. Some would say its a character flaw. I’m OK with flaws. I love people in general and feel completely out of control when someone is not happy with me or attempts to question my character.

I’m a people-pleaser and can calm most any storm very diplomatically I might add. I am creative and talented in the area of Do It Yourself projects and interior design and landscaping. I can sew, upholster, build and all sorts of other fun stuff.

I love senior citizens and recently discovered that I love writing as well. I love my former wife/best friend and my two girls to infinity and beyond.

I’m a former licensed clergyman who studied the Bible and counseling in college. While I am redefining my faith, and making some spiritual and religious course corrections, I am working everyday to follow Christ.

My two favorite ministers are Craig Groeschell and Joyce Meyer. I love the words of Maya Angelou and Mother Therese respectively.  Ok…I admit it.  I’m a sucker for some Michael Jackson music too.  80’s RULE baby.

This is my journey… Welcome to it.

Chet DeRouen


12 responses to “Who is Chet DeRouen?

  1. Mark

    November 13, 2012 at 11:28 AM

    Chet, We will always love you, but as you know along with everyone else we just can’t accept your new life style. It is 100% against the teachings of God. I can rattle off scripture to you but that’s no way to handle it, but then again what else do you fight evil with. The “WORD”!! We just can’t imagine you went to Bible College, become a licensed minister and do this. I know what the bible says. And you are living a sinful life plain and simple. Show me where it says you can live the life style you are living and be right. God did not make Adam & Steve or Eve & Geneveve. Man & Woman. Period!

    Uncle Mark

  2. Why Am I Gay?

    November 13, 2012 at 1:48 PM

    Uncle Mark,
    I appreciate your candor. I disagree, but I appreciate it allthesame. I too used to feel and believe just the way that you do. I was taught to “believe with ignorance.” Meaning to just believe what people told me and to never question… even if it didn’t feel right in my soul. The more I grew the more I learned that I must teach myself and not just listen to what “people” told me to believe.

    By your note, it leads me to believe that you have no idea what the Bible actually says about my “lifestyle.” I’m sure you could probably locate a scripture or two and use it as a sword to hurt others, but do you know the ORIGINAL interpretation from the greek or hebrew? I’m pretty confident that you do not. That is what I call “belief with ignorance.” You believe in a literal interpretaion of the scriptures. I do not supscribe to that form of legalism and small-mind thought. If you choose to interpret one scripture literally, then you MUST interpret the entire Bible literally. In that case, you must sell EVERYTHING that you have and give it to the poor. Your wife must never cut her hair and you must stop eating seafood immediately.

    I also question your use of the word “we.” You used it multiple times. I don’t use words like we or they. Unless you name names, I just assume that it is actuall YOU who is the “WE.” I choose to be honest and say names when appropriate. I would question your use of “we” as I have spoken directly with several of my cousins who fully support me and my “lifestyle” as you choose to call it. If I choose to be gay, the when did you choose to be heterosexual? When did you choose the color of your eyes, hair or your height? It’s not a choice. If it were a choice, then you could UNDO it. I have spent 42 1/2 years trying to UNDO what God did. God did’t MAKE me gay. He ALLOWED me to be gay. To share His love with others who are gay and feel abandoned by God? I don’t know for sure, but I do know that I have spoken with MANY Christian men who now know that God loves them just the way they are.

    I ask a simple question. Would you rather that I shot myself in the head and be dead or live the life that God has chosen for me and be alive? You have not walked one day in my shoes. You have no idea the pain, shame, fear and suicidal thoughts that have been upon me for years. For once in my life, I AM FREE. I am free to love God and others. You simply cannot question or judge another person’s faith in God. To do so would put you in a place of judgement. We are NOT judges.

    I love God more than I ever have in my life. I love you too just as you love me. Don’t be sad for me. Don’t pray for me to get “better.” I’m not sick. If you must pray, pray for the hundreds of families that have been destroyed by the church with their legalistic view of God and the scripture. That my friend is contrary to the Bible. God came to heal and help, not to shame and judge them.

    I challenge you to read my previous blog post entitled “a letter to louise” if you already haven’t. I didn’t write it. A Southern Baptist minister from Louisiana/Arkansas wrote it. I don’t ask you to change your opinion or belief system. I ask you to consider if your teaching just may be faulty? We (christians) were wrong about slavery, we were wrong about women serving in leadership… hmmmm… seems like we may just be wrong here too. Give it some thought. You will at some point have to face life with a gay person, It will likely be a grandchild or great grand child. It will happen. It will rock your world and your belief system just as it has mine.

    I truly appreciate your post. I really do! Most people just treat me like I’m a crazy person who should be ignored. At least you had the balls to communicate to me.

    With God’s love,


  3. Horn, Mark

    November 13, 2012 at 2:10 PM


    I guess so. Believe me when I say we love you. We never will stop. I guess truly we don’t fully understand your situation. It was just a shock that’s all. God says love one another as yourself so I have to do what he says. We’ll let him worry about the small stuff so to speak. I apologize for not speaking perfect English. Hey I’m just a coon *$%. We from da cuntry!! You are right. It’s not our place to judge others. It was good to hear from you. I wasn’t sure if “YOU” would respond to this blog. I never done anything like this before. We’ll holler at cha later!!!

    Love Uncle Mark

  4. Why Am I Gay?

    November 13, 2012 at 2:18 PM

    Yes…this has challenged everything that I thought I believed. This has NOT NOT NOT been an easy road. This has been a life of pain and struggle. I am happy to dialogue about it with honest and integrity just as I have been doing on my blog.

    …and your english is quite perfect! LOL

    Its best if you read my blog from the first post in July to the current one. It will make a little more sense that way.

  5. Why Am I Gay?

    November 13, 2012 at 2:01 PM

    Here is the short link to “a letter to louise”

    I also wanted to take issue with calling me EVIL? I know you didn’t mean that right?

  6. Horn, Mark

    November 13, 2012 at 2:11 PM

    Not at all I know you not evil. I’ll just whip your butt! HAHA~~~

  7. edward lynch

    December 26, 2012 at 6:55 PM

    God loves you for who you are…I am gay..and when people tell me it’s a sin,I remind them of what the Apostle Paul said…”all things are permissable to me,albeit not all are beneficial”….we are free in Christ…free from the Law of Moses..and Christians are not perfect,just forgiven..

  8. Anthony

    May 20, 2013 at 10:54 PM

    I must say thank you for you being authentic and I pray that you have eternal peace and joy. I just so happened to come cross your blog looking up something on Iyanla Vanzant which happends to be my favorite motivational speakers minister and life coach aswell. Keep walking in truth my brother. So many people can relate to this. Big HUG your way!!!!

  9. Why Am I Gay?

    May 20, 2013 at 10:56 PM

    Thank you Anthony. Blessings upon you.

  10. Jenny

    May 29, 2013 at 12:15 PM

    Hi Chet, just found your blog today. One thing that God is teaching me is loving people where they are. Christ died for us while we were yet in sin – that’s LOVE. Yet He didn’t do that for us to stay there. I don’t look at sin as what people do – the sin happens before we do anything. “For we all have sinned, and come short of His Glory.” When we get out of the image of God, we come short of His Glory. Before we were created, we were imagined (image of God) and if while here I come away from what God (who is LOVE) imagined me as – there lies Sin. if I think myself anything less than what God imagined and created me to be – sin. Those deceptions – then usually lead to a physical manifestation of sin. Now I’m not saying that God imagined and created you gay and I’m definitely not saying that’s something you chose. My sister has same sex attractions, and I’ve been with her through the depression, the anger, the suicidal thoughts – so I understand that this isn’t something someone can simply make a choice to do.
    It’s ok to say I Don’t know. “If you really want to know a meaning of a thing, stop giving it a meaning” Tune out everyone else’s opinions, doctrines, dogmas, issues. One side is saying ” You’re going to hell” the other side is saying “No we’re not, I was born this way” and it’s almost like you have to choose one, but neither side completes you. Neither side has your answer. Only your journey has your answer, your sound.
    I will follow Christ and I will love you where you are, not because I accept it or want you to be “happy”, but because I trust that God has something better for you, for all of us. Now whether we choose God’s better or our better is a choice that we have to make.
    I thank you for sharing your thoughts and journey. As Christians instead of thinking we have all the answers, we’d do better to simply listen and try to understand so that we can demonstrate compassion.
    I do believe that when we truly put any situation or issue in God’s hands – He will blow our minds and do things in our lives that we would have never dreamed of.

    I pray that we all learn to want what God wants.

    “Have you not read, that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh? Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.” – Jesus

    I pray that your former wife’s future husband is her former husband. God can heal and restore. Nothing is impossible.

  11. Why Am I Gay?

    May 29, 2013 at 1:20 PM

    Hello Jenny. First question, do we know each other? Just wondering lol.
    I take from your writing, that you believe in a literal translation of the Bible. I do not subscribe to a literal translation. For more reasons than one and after years of studying and earning my degree in biblical theology. I do not believe that the Bible is literal.
    so while I respect your open approach and your commentary. Because we believe differently regarding the Bible I do not subscribe to your understanding.
    if you will read the Bible as closely as many do not, you will find that there are many understated gay and lesbian relationship in the Bible. Google a letter to Louise when you get a moment it was written by a theologian and Baptist minister. It will blow your mind.

  12. Ray

    June 2, 2013 at 6:54 PM

    Thanks for sharing! I have a similar story! The Lord said to me, “I love you for who you are not what you do!” Big eye opener!


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